Painful intercourse is almost always caused by a lack of arousal. Women become physically ready for sex by expanding their vagina in width and length. It also lubricates and becomes moist, so that no friction is created. Vaginas were not designed to experience penetration unless arousal has taken place. Painful intercourse is known as dyspareunia, which is a term that describes all the causes of painful intercourse.
What Is Dyspareunia?
Many people wonder what is dyspareunia? Basically, if you feel fully sexually aroused but intercourse is still painful, you may have an underlying medical condition. It is important to seek professional medical advice about this to rule out significant and serious problems. The most common reason as to why women experience dyspareunia when aroused include:
• Recent childbirth. The vagina and birth canal often experience some strain, wear and tear after childbirth. Hence, it is quite common for sex to be quite painful for some time afterwards. It is also a case of sex feeling “weird”, which is not necessarily the same as pain.
• Menopause is a common cause of dyspareunia. Because the estrogen levels in the body start to drop, the vaginal wall becomes notably thinner. Your medical professional could provide you with estrogen cream, which is generally sufficient to completely resolve the problem.
• Numerous urinary infections can also be dyspareunia causes. Cystitis is a common cause of painful intercourse, but so are thrush and genital warts. It is important to have these conditions diagnosed and treated as soon as possible, which will also resolve the dyspareunia.
• A surprising amount of women have allergies or sensitivities to condoms, as well as lubricants and contraceptive creams. If you use any of these and experience dyspareunia, make sure you experiment with different brands and see if that solves the problem.
A big problem is that when a woman experiences pain, her sexual arousal diminishes. This, in turn, leads to further pain. As such, a woman may end up in a vicious cycle of pain, with their fear and expectancy of the pain to come diminishing their arousal even further and so on.
If, at any point, you notice that the pain is on side of your lower abdomen, you must speak to your medical professional immediately, because this could be a sign of a more significant problem, including prolapse, ovarian cysts, pelvic inflammatory disease, fibroids and endometriosis, which is the most common problem. Dyspareunia symptoms, as such, are a dry vagina and painful intercourse.
One other possibility is that you suffer from vaginismus. In this condition, the muscles inside the vagina, will tighten up as soon as the vagina is penetrated. Whether it is a finger, a penis or a tampon, the muscles will involuntarily tighten up. If this is the case, it may be almost impossible to have intercourse at all. In fact, the vagina can close completely. However, vaginismus causes are almost always purely psychological and this is something you must discuss with your medical professional.
Dyspareunia Treatment Options
There are quite a few things you can do at home to remedy dyspareunia, so long as you know that it is not caused by an underlying medical condition. Here are a few things you can try:
• Relax. You must be relaxed in order to be able to enjoy intercourse. Have a nice hot bath, do a few deep breathing exercises, get a relaxation tape, meditate. Anything that works to help you feel calm and at ease.
• Work on your relationship. It is possible that there is an issue in your relationship that stops you from being fully aroused. Intercourse compliments relationships that work, so make sure yours is a good and strong one.
• Do pelvic floor exercise. Doing this will help you get more blood towards the vagina and you will be hyper conscious of any sensations down there, increasing sexual arousal.
• Keep a tube of lube by the bed at all times.
• Do some exercise before you have sex. If you go for a run or do any other type of exercise, your body has been scientifically proven to be more responsive to sex some fifteen to thirty minutes later.
If none of these work, go back to your medical professional and try to get to the root of the problem. However, be realistic. It is likely that you are nervous – the vicious cycle previously discussed – and you must give it some time too.